Over The Could Haves and Through The Shoulds’.

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That’s right, it’s time for O! Over is this O word.

What do I mean? Move on, to move away, to stop, to get around the obstacle, to get over it.

I cannot tell you how much I am over not getting over the little things. I’m over constantly going over details in my head that have already happened. Obsessing over possible problems that could happen, have happened, or may never happen. Which brought me to the question, how do I stop and get over the issue before the issue is all over me?

One of my greatest challenges is letting things go, suprised?

Every year my best friend and I take a trip somewhere new. We planned our first trip out of the country. I love researching the perfect place with the best reviews for a week-long get-a-way, I way over-do it: I overpack, I repack, then repack again, I over plan every activity. I go over every detail of the itinerary and over and over and over, well you get the picture. This year we were 5 staring it to Jamaica. 

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 I am very lucky, My BFF is probably the most easy-going optimistic person I’ve ever met. While her cool composure is really both equally annoying and endearing to this No-it-all She really helps to keep me calm and for that, I am very grateful.

The sheer magnitude of the mind-plosion when my plans go astray can best be described as get out of the way!

All my painstaking preparations for this trip made no difference at all. As soon as we touched down my plans caught fire at this five-star resort that barely made two star standards. Long story short, not one thing went as prepaid for.

Well, I geared up for a tantrum like no other my cheeks red my patience so thin.  

Like any full-grown adult about to throw a tantrum over beyond their control moments; I reacted with emotion and began a full-blown bitch fest to my friend. My BFF was as travel-weary and irritated inside as I was but still, somehow she was calm as a cucumber on the outside.

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My bestie offered some advice, which normally I would ignore.

 She looked at me and said “We are already here, let’s be here… Let’s look at this as a lesson in life never prepay for a hotel again. let us enjoy the crappy hotel and beach and f everything else.” 

While I initially resisted going with the flow I eventually gave in. We ended up having a wonderful time at this horrible resort in Montego Bay and the lesson was learned.
We only have a limited time here on this planet. we can be happy or miserable and happy just feels better.  It is already later in life than you think. Do not waste another moment being crazy over issues beyond your control. Just enjoy the moment and F everything else.

Happy healing,



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