I cannot change what has happened in my life. The choices I have made in the past have made me who I am now. Nor can I expect others to bow down before me because bad things happened that were beyond my control. In life, we play the cards we are dealt and sometimes that hand just sucks. Life is a hot mess, it is a lot easier to blame others for my unhappiness than to blame myself. Well according to Erica, my go-to guru, We control our own happiness, it is all on us to find our own path to happiness. My blame gaming has only ever held me back, I need to learn to forgive, let go and move on.